🎶 To Build a Home – The Cinematic Orchestra
“People mostly move in shades of grey. So perhaps you could be a little less black and white.”
It made me smile.
Because it rang so true. And because it’s a thought I sometimes share myself, though I usually swallow the words.
And yet, hearing this woman say it so bluntly didn’t sound harsh at all.
Rather, it felt like a fair and thoughtful observation.
The man insisted, earnestly and convincingly, that he was “never” understood. That he was “different.” And in the situation he found himself in, his partner disagreed with him, this seemed to confirm it even more.
So what the woman said was something he needed to hear.
If you want to be understood, and ideally be willing to understand the other, then nuance and self-reflection are essential.
And those are hard to find when you live in extremes.
The poet Rumi once wrote:
“Why are you so busy with this or that or good or bad; pay attention to how things blend.”
Isn’t that a beautiful thought?
Because life is rarely black or white.
At least not in being together, in living together.
There, we are a blend of experiences, thoughts, emotions, wounds, desires, and yes, misunderstandings.
Or as Rumi said even more beautifully:
“Beyond ideas of wrongdoing and rightdoing, there is a field. I’ll meet you there.”
Where we stop judging, we truly meet. ❣️
Love in action 
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